Our Home Study Part 2: The Individual Interviews

Our Home Study Part 2: The Individual InterviewsNote: This is the second part in a series of posts chronicling our home study process. The purpose of this series is to give you an idea of what the home study process is like so you can know what to expect. Just keep in mind that not everyone conducts the home study exactly the same way, so your experience may vary.

Today was the second session of our home study. As you may recall, in our first session Courtney and I sat down with our┬ásocial worker for the initial interview. This interview was basically a “getting to know you” kind of interview. Today’s session continued on that, but instead of getting to know us as a couple, this session focused on getting to know us individually.

At first, we thought these interviews would be conducted at her office, but it turned out they would be conducted at our home instead. This meant we ended up spending much of the last week scrambling to get the house cleaned up. Even though she was only coming to interview us and not do the inspection, we still wanted the place to look presentable. (We probably wasted our time getting everything spotless, but oh well. At least it will be less work for us to do for the actual inspection!)

When our social worker arrived, she first talked with Courtney while I went in the other room. Then I came out and talked to her while Courtney went in the other room. In all it took a little over an hour to conduct both interviews. Like the first interview, these interviews were pretty easy.

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Break It Down: The Domestic Infant Adoption Process Step By Step

Break It Down: The Domestic Infant Adoption Process Step By StepSo you’ve made the decision to adopt a baby, but you are finding the process overwhelming and intimidating. The very thought of it makes you all sweaty and just a little nauseous.

Join the club!

Just about everybody going through it for the first time feels that way. It’s perfectly natural. But once you get started, it’s not so bad. The key is to take it one baby step at a time.

That’s why I’ve decided to write this article breaking down the adoption process into 7 simple steps. Well okay, so the steps really aren’t that simple. But the idea here is to keep it as simple as possible so that you can better understand the process and have an idea of what to expect. In future blog posts I will explore each of these topics in much greater depth. For now, we’re just touching on the basics.

Note: The steps listed here are for domestic infant adoption in the U.S. If you are interested in an international adoption, or a domestic foster adoption or older child adoption, the steps may be similar, but with key differences. For the purposes of this website, I am focusing on domestic infant adoption because that is what my wife and I are going through and that is what I’m most familiar with.

So without further ado, here are the seven steps of the domestic infant adoption process.

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Our Home Study Part 1: The Initial Interview


Home Study Part 1: The Initial InterviewToday, Courtney and I started our home study for our adoption.

For those of you who don’t know, a home study is basically a document prepared by a social worker that details everything about your family: your background, your medical history, your financial situation, your reasons for adopting, your views on parenting, your values and beliefs, details about your home and lifestyle, etc. It usually involves a series of interviews and one or more home visits by the social worker. Typically it can take anywhere from 45 days to 4 months to complete.

Many people, myself included, are initially scared about the home study because of the fact that it is such a thorough analysis of your home and your life, and it can seem intrusive. But don’t let it scare you too much. The purpose of a home study is not to put you under a microscope and scrutinize every detail of your life. It’s simply to get an idea of who you are and what kind of life you will provide for your child. It also helps you by educating you and preparing you to deal with the issues that are unique to adoptive parents. It may seem like an arduous process at first, but if you take it one step at a time, you’ll be fine. As our social worker put it, “We laugh together, we cry together, we pull our hair out together, and in the end it will feel like I’m family!” ­čÖé

This post will be the first in a series of posts about our home study. For each session of the home study, I will write a post describing what took place in that particular session. Once the home study is complete, I’ll do a round-up post summarizing the entire process. My goal is to help you understand what the home study process is like and give you an idea of what to expect. Keep in mind that not everyone conducts the home study exactly the same way, so your experience may vary from mine. That said, you can use this to get a general idea of what it’s like.

Sound good? All righty then, let’s go!

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Our Adoption Journey Begins

Our Adoption Journey BeginsI never thought I would find myself thinking about adoption, much less starting a blog about it, yet here I am. Life doesn’t always go the way you plan. My wife Courtney and I certainly didn’t plan on taking this journey when we said “I do” eight years ago. We both always knew we wanted to become parents. But when we discovered that pregnancy was not an option for us due to infertility and other health-related issues, we found ourselves faced with a tough decision. Do we give up on our dreams to become parents, or do we find a way to become parents? In the end, we chose to find a way. We chose adoption.

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