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Telling Your Story With Your Adoption Profile

Telling Your Story With Your Adoption ProfileIt’s been a while since I’ve written a new post on the blog. Courtney and I have been busy moving to a new house recently, and I’m in the process of starting a new job, so finding time to write has been difficult, but I’m still here. We’ve also had to put our adoption plans on the back burner for a while, but as we get settled into our new home we will start moving forward again. We are still trying to wrap things up for our home study (Part 4 of my home study blog post series will be coming soon), and we will soon start working on what this blog post is all about: our adoption profile.

So what is an adoption profile you ask? Simply put, your adoption profile is your introduction to potential birthmothers. It is your way of telling them who you are, why you want to adopt, and why you think you will be good parents. It is usually the first impression that a potential birthmother will have of you, and since you don’t get a second chance to make a first impression, it’s important to get it right.

Adoption profiles come in many different forms. In this post, I’ll go over the basics of what an adoption profile is and what it should include. As we work on our own profile, I’ll continue to share more tips and resources here on the blog to help you write your own profile. For now, let’s start with the basics:

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The Most Important Thing To Remember About Your Adoption (And It May Not Be Easy To Hear)

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Just a fair warning right up front: What you are about to read may be a little painful for you to hear.

As you go through your adoption journey, especially during that excruciating waiting period when you are just waiting to receive “the call” that you have been matched with a potential birthmother, you are going to feel a whirlwind of emotions. At times you will feel excitement, anxiety, nervousness, impatience, hope, fear, and a plethora of other emotional highs and lows. Often in the midst of these emotions, it’s easy to forget about what’s important.

That’s why I think it’s necessary to keep your emotions in check from time to time, and focus on what I think is one of the most important aspects of adoption. Again, it not be easy for you to hear. It’s not always easy for me either. But I believe it’s so important that we remember this one thing:

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More Decisions: Breaking Down the Types of Adoption Professionals to Work With

types_of_adoption_professionalsSo you’ve made the decision to adopt and have an idea of what kind of adoption you want to pursue. (You did think about this, right?) Now it’s time to start taking action. But obviously you don’t want to go it alone. You need to find an adoption professional to work with.

This can be a very difficult and overwhelming decision, as there are literally hundreds of adoption professionals and services out there to choose from. But they generally fall into one of three different categories: agencies, attorneys, and facilitators. In later blog posts, I will go into all the nitty gritty details of how to find the right adoption professional for you, but for now, we are just going to keep things simple and break down the differences between the three.

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10 Barriers That Keep People From Adopting a Child, and How To Overcome Them

8 Barriers That Keep People From Adopting, and How To Overcome ThemI have to confess, when it comes to making big decisions, I have a tendency to procrastinate. Making the decision to start the adoption process was no exception for us. My wife and I started much later than we probably could have. We are finally moving forward, but sadly, I hear far too many stories of people who want to adopt but are afraid to take that first step. Many couples even give up on their dreams to become parents because they do not think they can adopt.

I think there are a number of different barriers, whether real or imagined, that keep people from adopting, but it all boils down to one thing: FEAR. Adopting a child is a major decision that will affect your life dramatically, and the very process of adopting can seem overwhelming. So I decided to come up with a list of ten reasons why people tend to put off an adoption or give up on it altogether, and suggest ways to overcome each of these fears.

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Decisions, Decisions: Considering Your Adoption Options

Considering Your Adoption OptionsOne thing you will learn as you begin your adoption journey is that there are so many decisions to make. One of the great things about adoption is that you have a number of options. Whether you want to adopt a newborn or an older child, from a different country or from right here in the good ol’ U.S. of A. (or whatever country you live in), there is a way to make it happen.

Most people know what they want from the very beginning. Maybe you do too. Or maybe you’re not sure. Either way, I think it is a good idea to consider all of your options and look at the pros and cons of each. That’s why I decided to write this post breaking down the different types of adoption and the major decisions you will need to make. It’s important to make these decisions before you choose an adoption professional to work with, because you want to work with someone who is able to help you pursue the type of adoption you want.

(Note: This blog is focused on domestic newborn adoptions because that is what my wife and I are going through. Nonetheless, I want you to know your options and explore them as much as you can, so you can make the choice that is best for you.)

So without further ado, let’s take a look at your adoption options:

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Break It Down: The Domestic Infant Adoption Process Step By Step

Break It Down: The Domestic Infant Adoption Process Step By StepSo you’ve made the decision to adopt a baby, but you are finding the process overwhelming and intimidating. The very thought of it makes you all sweaty and just a little nauseous.

Join the club!

Just about everybody going through it for the first time feels that way. It’s perfectly natural. But once you get started, it’s not so bad. The key is to take it one baby step at a time.

That’s why I’ve decided to write this article breaking down the adoption process into 7 simple steps. Well okay, so the steps really aren’t that simple. But the idea here is to keep it as simple as possible so that you can better understand the process and have an idea of what to expect. In future blog posts I will explore each of these topics in much greater depth. For now, we’re just touching on the basics.

Note: The steps listed here are for domestic infant adoption in the U.S. If you are interested in an international adoption, or a domestic foster adoption or older child adoption, the steps may be similar, but with key differences. For the purposes of this website, I am focusing on domestic infant adoption because that is what my wife and I are going through and that is what I’m most familiar with.

So without further ado, here are the seven steps of the domestic infant adoption process.

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